Many of us are mourning the recent death of David Richbell, a UK-based mediator and mediation trainer widely known and loved around the world.

I was lucky enough to count David as a close friend and colleague. We mediated together, delivered training together, cheered England at rugby together. And so I have had good cause to reflect over the last few weeks not only on our friendship, but on what made David such a good mediator. Here are some of the things which come to mind.

It mattered

Peace and resolution mattered to David. He was not interested in notching up more settlements. He was interested in people understanding one another, and in so doing finding a way forward. He understood what too few mediators do – that enabling people to understand each other will usually bring about resolution, whereas simply pursing resolution will often not bring about understanding.


None of this made David soft, or anything approaching it! I remember co-mediating with him in a particular situation over a lengthy period (nearly a year in all). On one occasion, someone was rude to him on a conference call so he just hung up and waited for them to call back – which they duly did! He seemed to care little for seniority, and had the courage to ask the hard questions, challenge people and keep the ship on course. Always graciously, but fearlessly nonetheless.


As a former quantity surveyor, David was a details and numbers man. He was quite happy to deal in the detail, but he was also able to retain perspective – what does all this detail mean for the wider question of settlement? Where is this particular conversation going?

His sense of perspective extended to his grasp of his role as a mediator. He knew intuitively, and from experience, that it was not all about him. That may seem obvious, but I’m not convinced that all mediators do. That knowledge meant that David knew when to take the lead, and when to back off and follow. Mediating is, in the end, service. Humility is its fertile soil.

An enabler

David was a great enabler. He exuded a belief in people, not least that they are more than capable of finding a resolution themselves, given the right context. This permeated the way he mediated and the way he trained. He was not interested in telling people what he thought, so much as enabling them to find things out for themselves. It is a mediator’s way. Ask any of his mediation clients.

And ask any of his countless mediation students over the years. On training courses, his eye was often drawn to those who were particularly struggling to grasp the required skills or to make the transition into a new way of doing things. I have particularly strong memories of him getting alongside them, investing time, hope and confidence during the breaks. And, perhaps inevitably, his belief in them rubbed off, their terror of failure waned, and they qualified!


As I have often said, no one can be “a mediator”, as if it were a role we could put on or take off. We can only be “ourselves, mediating”. To be effective, mediators need to be authentic. To be authentic, we need to be a genuine expression of ourselves. You couldn’t slip a cigarette paper between who David was and how he mediated. That’s the whole, and holistic, point. Our sheer humanity is a much stronger force in mediations (and indeed in life) than we sometimes seem to believe. David knew that, and lived it out.

Recently, I met a lawyer at a mediation who had heard of David’s death and expressed her sadness. “He was”, she said, “her favourite mediator”. I suspect there are many like her.

Thank you, David, for all you have given us.


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  1. Bill, what a wonderful look back, so comforting to read – my memories of David are talking smack about All Blacks next game against England – he would pull out his little diary and have all the fixtures noted. And we would talk about good beer, especially Fuller’s ESB. In fact, the last time I saw David was when we met at The Cheshire Cheese in Little Essex Street earlier this year and he was most put out that I no longer drank ale and was now partial to cheap whiskey!

  2. Thanks Bill, I was reflecting on the first point particularly. David’s passion for peace and peace-seeking always struck and inspired me. It was an honour to know him.

  3. Regrettably, I found out about David’s passing only when we reached out to him for his assistance, but not as a mediator.
    Rather, literally having written the book on construction mediation, David was a unique resource for advice on conducting negotiations of complex disputes. It was only in this capacity that I had worked with him, where he was an advisor not a mediator.
    Your words of praise reflect the man and professional we found him to be. With an ability to predict how events would unfold, David advocated being both forthright, facing into issues that you knew would be problematic, and being bold about proposing a realistic structure for engagement instead of taking small, conservative steps and letting the rest be decided later.
    As much as one can learn and grow from the mediation process, a great mediator’s insight and value extends far beyond it. David exemplified that.
    Thanks for writing this up, Bill.

  4. Bill, thank you. You have articulated so beautifully what David was and what he stood for – a good man has left us, but he has left behind a huge and widespread legacy in the field of mediation that is a testament to his life and a life well-lived.

  5. Like all who knew him I was saddened to hear we had lost David. I thought of David today and it encouraged me to add these few lines. I was one of those fortunate enough to be trained by David – in 2007. He was quite imposing even for an experienced lawyer as I then was. He had presence and loved figures which he used with great skill. Bill’s notes captures the essence of a lovely man. And he is right of course that when mediating as in life you need to be the authentic you. Thank you David for teaching me that I had it in me to create a safe space for people to find ways to resolve their differences.

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